One of our local radio stations has already started playing Christmas music, the stores are decorated and Christmas commercials are everywhere. The next seven weeks will be filled with families getting together, lots of eating, decorating, shopping, gift wrapping, caroling and the list goes on.
For many, including myself, if you’ve lost a loved one the holidays can be difficult. I miss my Mom everyday but during this time of the year I miss her even more. Mom made the holidays special!
The day after Thanksgiving is especially hard because we always went shopping together. We would play Christmas music, shop, laugh and drink hot chocolate.
The holidays have changed for me since Mom passed away but I’m trying to find blessings in the changes.
Here are 5 Ways to Embrace the Holidays after the Loss of a Loved One:
1. Reminisce about your past holidays.
I love remembering all the fun we had with Mom at Thanksgiving and Christmas. Mom did some hillarious things during the holidays, and we laugh all the time when we think about them.
2. Don’t expect things to be exactly the same.
After losing a loved one things will change. But I have learned to embrace the change and realize that we can still enjoy this time of the year.
3. Make new memories!
We all love family traditions but sometimes we have to create new ones. We have had to do that since we lost Mom but we are making and creating some wonderful new memories.
4. Do for others.
This time of the year offers lots of ways to help people in need. Look for ways to help and give to others and you’ll be blessed.
5. Remember you will get through this with God’s help.
I would not have gotten through Mom’s death without Jesus! Cling to Him and His word.
“I lift up my eyes to the hills. From where does my help come? My help comes from the LORD, who made heaven and earth. He will not let your foot be moved; he who keeps you will not slumber.” Psalm 121:1-3
If this is going to be a difficult holiday for you I would love to pray for you. Email me at cyndispivey(at)gmail(dot)com.
Have a blessed day!